Tama literally means “breath” in Swahili. In the context of sex, tama refers to the warm breath of a woman, which is the only thing that should touch her vagina. A good girl does not allow any man to put his lips or tongue anywhere near her vagina. If he does, she will feel ashamed of herself and will probably think something bad about him. Also, if he doesn’t know how to do it right, she may even get angry at him and slap him! If he keeps on doing it, she will end up feeling guilty and ashamed. She might even hate him.
Kukadzi (also spelled cuckold) is a term used to describe a man who gets to have sex with a beautiful woman, while watching his wife or girlfriend having sex with someone else. He might even go further than just watching; he might join in, either orally or manually, although he shouldn’t ejaculate inside her. He is called a kukadzi because he’s been cuckolded. So, if you’re a kukadzi, congratulations! You’ve got a great job.